Am I selfish for waiting to try for baby after friend's wedding?

gina130284  Completely makes sense and I can completely understand your point. I wouldnt say it sounds selfish though - just sensible! At the end of the day when a baby comes along it will change your life completely so why not have a few more months of freedom before that happens. Also gives you and your hubby time to be alone and appreciate eachother before a little one comes along.

I was in a similar position earlier this year when H2B & I decided to start trying for a baby (this was before he decided to propose). My best friend has been engaged for about 7 years and had a baby but they then decided to book their wedding for March 2012. She asked me to be her MOH but kept going on about the possibility of me being pregnant, and asking me to'time it' carefully so I wasnt about to give birth during her ceremony... it really put me off and did annoy me a bit too.

As it turned out once we got engaged we decided to wait until after the wedding to have a baby. Im happy we decided to do this because I can give my friends wedding my full attention and have managed to book and organise the qhole hen do without worrying about having a huge bump. It also made dress shopping much easier too xx

mialewismummy  I think only you can know when the time is right and i understand where you are coming from but as i takes 2 people to make a baby your h2b should also have a say.. there is always going to be times to put it off i.e weddings,christmas, birthdays (i know i have been there lol) hope you can work it out xx

ina_vi  Considering you're willing to put off the pregnancy for such reason, for me it means that the whole experience is really important for you. And that is something your hubby should realize. As mialewismummy said, there's always some reason to postpone the pregnancy. But a person will do that only if having a baby is not No1 on the priority list. In which case it's better to wait. Yeah, it takes two to make a baby, ie you both should be on the same page. At the end, it's your decision. But if you want more time before getting pregnant no one, and I mean NO ONE have the right to pressure you and guilt you into something. x

nextmrstaylor  @bongolola I understand why you want to wait but i also understand what your hubby to be is saying too about putting your own life on hold for other peoples plans. I might be sounding slightly out of turn here but surely there is more to enjoying a good night out / hen do than drinking alcohol and getting absolutly ratt arsed, do you honestly have to drink to have a good time? . I apologise if I sound like im offending you or anybody else at all its just that im teetotal, i've never drank or even got pissed and on nights out and hen nights i've been on i've still managed to have a great time, even better knowing that i'll wake up in the morning and not be suffering the next day with a hang over and being able to remember everything, saying that though if you are pregnant at the time of the hen do then, especially if you're quite far along I totally understand why you may feel uncomfortable.
I know with any of my bridesmaids I wouldn't dictate to them if they're trying for a baby to try n make sure they're not pregnant at the time of the wedding because I know how hard it is for some people to get pregnant, me included as we've been trying for over a year and we've both got problems and I honestly dont know if it will ever happen naturally or otherwise.
As the other girls say only you know when you and your hubby to be are both ready to start trying for a baby and hopefully when you do it happens quickly for you and you dont have any problems xx

bongolola  Thanks, glad I dont seam totally unreasonable. I can go out and not drink and do so however if I was pregnant I wouldnt really want to be surrounded by pissed people, clubs are rammed and if I got knocked etc and something happened to baby I'd always wonder if that caused it. Think I wont bring it up again until he does as he knows how I feel and I'm sure he'll get over us postponing for a few months
thanks ladies
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jezibella83  @bongolola Oh my god I totally get where you're coming from and I don't think you're being selfish at at all. For me you summed it all up when you said " I can see his point and if it hadnt been my best friend since forever I probably wouldnt of wanted to wait but it is", your friend is obviously very important to you and I can totally see what you mean. Yeah you can go to the hen do / wedding and not drink like @nextmrstaylor said but it makes things more fun if you're all drinking, getting merry & having a laugh messing around playing silly games etc. Also I'm guessing once your friend is married she'll be trying for babies too so you can both become mummies at the same time which is something you can experience together.

To be honest time flies sooooooooo damn quickly that before you know it the wedding will have been and gone and you'll be trying, it's not long to wait. Just explain to your husband that having a baby is such a life changing thing and you are more than prepared to go ahead with it all but you want to wait just 7 months. Be strong xxx