Arguments with husband to be - healthy amount

essex_bride  To be honest Mark and I rarely argue and not once in four years have we had a flaming row or anything like that.. Dont get me wrong we have our disagreements and debate over things ( Usually his work and the silly hours that he works and it interfering in things or my raging hormones lol) but we always manage to resolve it before it escalates any further by one of us stepping away to let it cool down and then talking about it a little bit later once we have calmed down..It works well for us. Neither of us are really that hot tempered, we have both been in relationships where the other was either abusive or very hot headed and hot tempered and quiet honestly dont like that side in a partner. xx

missengaged  Yeah we don't argue much either! Obviously we have disagreements, similar to @essex_bride where h2b works A LOT or my h2b is quite messy which drives me bonkers as I am a clean freak! But we just have a moan at each other then chat about it but never anything out of hand!! Only ever had one major fall out in our near 8years together and that was down to my sister getting with his brother and having a baby after 2months, so that was a bit of a nightmare period but was down to other peoples nonsense!! Good topic though...something different to chat about!!x

cyprus_wedding  yea we would have disagreements as well but my H2b is quite a passonite person so they can get out of control quite quickly which like you @essex_bride one of us steps away but that is also difficult as most of our disagreements happen in the car and we are stuck there lol. His family would argue ALOT so he has grew up with it and waking up the next morning with everyone being ok with each other even when some harsh things have been said (and again alcohol is envolved) where as i was very sheltered from fighting and arguements my family all got on quite well so i don't cope well when we argue lol xx

jen150912  @cyprus_wedding We're pretty much the same as @essex_bride and @missengaged - we have disagreements but nothing major. Well, once we had a blazing row over my 'lack of housework doing'!! I remember ranting on here that he needed bother coming home from basketball that night haa!! Brian and I are both really easy going people - we don't really fall out, as we just laugh when we start getting moany at each other. Anyone hearing us would thing we hated each other - 'ya cow', 'ya dick', 'arsehole' etc, but it's all in good fun! I promise! xx

nextmrstaylor  @cyprus_wedding I can honestly say that me and hubby to be have never had an argument and we've been together since nov 2009, he can annoy me at times with things he does, or doesent do but I usually end up doing them and walking round in a bit of a mood so he knows im annoyed as im usually quite silent and only give short answers so he apologises, we talk everything through including bedroom matters. It might sound daft but because we have been together for so long now without having an argument i'm a little scared to actually have one as i've hardley ever seen him get angry (something would really have to piss him off to get him worked up) and he's never really seen me shout (even when I've been having arguments with me sisters and they're have been many of them). I can't remember what it was but once I ended up getting in a mood and then crying and I remember saying 'that I didnt want us to have a argument about it and thats why i never said anything'.
I'm similar to you that I grew up with not much arguing, I dont remember my parents ever arguing, short words with each other sometimes but never arguing, there was more arguing and fighting between me and my 3 sisters xx

mum_of1  @cyprus_wedding i can honestly say me and my h2b DO argue lol not a lot but i think it is good to air things out in realationship. Do have a lot of disagreements though lol I must say MAKE UP SEX is gr8 Even when we do av disagreement though it never gets out of hand and must say he nothing like my ex who was abusive. We very much like jen150912 where call each other and then end up laughin at each other. Have been together 7 yr this dec and have prob had about 3 arguments where kicked him out house pmsl for him to sit in car round corner whilst i cool off bless him

clareandjason2012  i too can honestly say my H2B and i have never had a full blown arguement in the nearly 3 years weve been together weve had dissagreements, usually involves either him or me sulking and not saying alot last time we fell out was over the wedding and we hardly spoke all night, next day i went to work then went into town after work to get a few things, i got off the bus still not happy, feeling fed up and guilty as well, walking along the street not realising my H2B was chasing after me having seen me get off my bus, when i stopped to look in one shop window, he appeared in front of me with his cute vulnerable little boy look that i just love, and said "sorry" then kissed me on a crowded high street i said sorry and all was good again, but we usually let each other know when somethings bugging either of us, plus H2B is very good at detecting when im fed up or mad, as am i with him lol....he can also tell when im mad and when ive got pmt lol which he lets me get on with and gives me cuddles lol xx

nextmrstaylor  @clareandjason2012 my hubby to be is the same, he knows when im in a really down mood and fed up, especially when its at him for not having down anything apart from sit on his bum all day, he comes up and apologiese to me, gives me kisses and cuddles and tells me he loves me and says he'll do more next time, at times i can be feeling really down and he knows just to leave me alone and let me get on with it and ill sort meself out, he also says hes good at detecting what mood im in xx

clareandjason2012  @nextmrstaylor yeah my H2B tells me argueing doesnt acheive much anyway, when weve got issues we have a bit of a quiet period then talk it out whats bothering either of us, for most of this week though ive had a bit of pmt which he knows makes me a tad edgy at times! but all he does is gives me space, kisses and cuddles and leaves me to get on with it as he knows it only lasts for a few days lol xx were both very laid back so its not very often that we do dissagree on something xx

quoth_the_raven  Me, I came from parents who have been together almost 35 years and in that whole time have had maybe five actual arguments. The first time I was ever around a friend's house and her parents started arguing was the most traumatic thing I've ever experienced, including the time I looked down at my foot back in January and realised no one's foot should be at a right angle. I genuinely thought I was witnessing the divorce of her parents right there. I may even have stared open-mouthed. Or I may have just run away and cried.

H2b, on the other hand, is from one good Mam and one... well. I am using not the faintest trace of exaggeration or hyperbole to say that his father is genuinely the worst father in the entire world. Not the worst person - the ones who beat or abuse their kids or what have you are, obviously, infinitely worse individuals - but definitely the worst father. He just totally lacks actual parenting skills. But sadly, he also lacks husbanding skills (as in, you know, he's a terrible husband, not a terrible medieval farmer. Husbanding, not husbandry.)

Inexplicably h2b has nonetheless managed to become an excellent partner, which is really quite the achievement in rising above your programming. It means that we've now been together for almost 7 years, and every issue we have we just talk through. We very early on worked out the art of communicating, though - always listen, always be willing to see it from the other person's point of view, always assume a mistake rather than a malicious attempt to hurt and never point-score ('Darling, I don't like it when you smack me in the face with a wet fish sometimes.' 'Yeah?! Well, I don't like it when you pour gravy in my shoes!') (Not actual examples).

The only bit of relationship advice my 98-year-old grandmother ever gave me, though, was 'Never go to bed on an argument.' And oh, it's true.

Actually, she also told me to never marry a man with a baritone vocal range because of having Bad Luck on Tuesdays, with I think might be some sort of obscure south-walian folklore, but I ignored that one. Although come to think of it, my luck is pretty poor on Tuesdays...

lollih  My nan has always said "as long as you marry someone that makes you laugh you'll be ok coz once the sex goes laughter is all you have!" lol love my nan xx

nextmrstaylor  @lollih my hubby to be makes me laugh, always knows how to cheer me up, he even said the other day it makes him happy that hes making me happy xx

lollih  @nextmrstaylor ah that's so sweet, my h2b is so funny we laugh together all the time and we have the exact same sense of humour. Our friends say we are like a double act we are both Pisces and I'm basically the female version of him and vice versa xxx

gina130284  Hmmm we really dont argue alot!! I think the last time we had a proper argument was in August!! I dont remember what it was about but know it was then as he went to a rehabilitation things= through work following an operation and it killed me that he'd gone away for 5 days. He has his 'things' which annoy me, but these are generally trivial things such as leaving a wet towel on the bed, and leaving wardrobe doors open or kitchen cupboard doors open....Grrrr drives me insane but we dont argue about it!

kookiebek  @gina130284 OMG My husband does the same thing with the litchen cupboards, it drives me to distraction!!! lol x