Is my husband to be going off me?

emma89  Oh and meant to say, its not as tho I can go and watch tv or anything as we live with his folks and are confined to his room, meaning we have a bed and a tv!! If I get bored, my only option is to go out, but I don't want to have to go out all the time, I do like to chill!! xx

peaches   feel for you hun. Has he been showing any interest in the wedding stuff? Not long to go now! If you are living with his parents it's alot of pressure if the two of you are more or less living in one room....everyone needs some space sometimes. I would wait until he's not there, disconnect it, hide it and then tell him he's not getting it back until you've spent some quality time together!! Go for a walk or something you enjoy doing together xxx
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kelz15912  @emma89 hey hun first how bloody selfish is he if you live at his parents and is using the only tv you have in your room! Do you get on with his parents? My h2b loves his ps3. At one stage he was on it every night and wasn't comin to bed til the early hours, which made him very moody the next day. After loads of arguing we agreed that he could go on every other night. This only lasted a few weeks and the arguments started again. Now he is only allowed on it Friday and saturday nights. He generally comes to bed around 6 because all his mates stay on line, which means he is in bed til one. But if I want to go out on either Saturday or Sunday daytime I tell him that I don't care what time you come to bed, we are getting up and going out. We still argue about it but not as bad.

I do agree that this causes problems in the bedroom hun. I know what it feels like when you don't love yourself. I recently have just learned to love my curves. It's difficult though.

Does your h2b never want to discuss both things hun? Xxx

kelz15912  @peaches I tried hiding his leads to the computer and they row was massive. Lol knew I'd pissed him of bad. Xx

katy3108  My h2b is obsessed with his ps3 aswell, although he works til 11pm anyway so dont get much time in the evenings then he stay up on it til really late. It causes friction sometimes especially when he then spends the whole weekend in bed!! I end up telling him I dont think he loves me etc, this normally kick starts him again.

I know what its like to live with the inlaws I lived with Mike's for ages it drove me nuts after a while although they were nice enough its not the same as having your own space. I moved in after living on my own for ages and all my stuff had to fit into the smallest bedroom in the place. Made it difficult. It will get easier. Maybe sit down and have a talk with him, I find I have to give Mike a kick up the ass regularly!! Sorry bout long explanation!

nextmrstaylor  @emma89 luckily we don't have a games console in the flat though I think if we did he's probably be on it quite a bit as he said he did use to be quite addicted to them when he was younger. He plays pool a lot on his phone but thats more so when he's watching tv at the same time. We too only have one tv and if there is something on we btoh want to watch at same time we comprise and which ever one can watch it on demand misses out on watching it first time round, we take it in turns with the TV. In regards to our sex life I do too sometimes feel like he may have gone off me as nothing I seem to try gets him going but he says he still fancies me and thinks im gorgeous and pretty and sexy, but him not wanting as much as me is more to do with me wanting more than he does, i think my drive is highger than his. Maybe you should talk to your h2b about his game playing and see if you can come to a compromise like @kelz15912 and her h2b have come to. Hope you work things out xx

kelz15912  @nextmrstaylor so glad i have a tivo box, i record all my programmes. I find my sex drive is 10 times that of johns hun. Most of my friends say the same. regarding the sex life dont let this make you think he doesnt want you hun and the same for you @emma89 the way i see it is men are lazy and if they can get out of something they will. You always hear that men have sex on there mind 24/7 but when it comes to the crunch they are just lazy. xxxx

emma89  @kelz15912, @nextmrstaylor, @katy3108. @peaches thanks for all your comments girls, you have all reassured me, and I managed to talk to him about it! He is interested in the wedding, and can't fault him at all for that. I am continuing to put a compromise in place, not gonna push things tho otherwise we'll end up rowing! He seems to be better today after our talks this morning, so fingers crossed it continues thanks for all the comments girls, you've really cheered me up! And hope all your plans are going well? xx

nextmrstaylor  @emma89 your welcome and i'm glad you seemed to have sorted things out xx

kelz15912  @emma89 your welcome Hun that's what we ate here for x

peaches  pleased to hear that hun xx
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missengaged  Another ps3 widow!! What is it with men and their computers?!! Just try come to a compromise hun so that it doesn't keep occurring otherwise you'll go round in circles!! Luckily my h2b will only play it if I'm busy on the lap top or not watching tv and then he will play it, usually as I go to bed before him too, but this works fine for us!! Must be difficult being in the one room so I hope your chat has resolved it indefinately! x

mrsctobe  @emma89 I know what you mean hun! We've only been married since September but hubby seems to go out a lot at weekends with his friends or with his work colleagues and partners are never invited. He's out tonight in fact. He always sleeps out and i seem to be spending a lot more time on my own, which isn't good, I come from a large family so am used to having people around. Before we got married, we bought a house and it's in an area we don't know, where we have not made friends or even acquaintances and he doesn't seem to get why I say I feel lonely at times. I have tried talking to him about it, but he doesn't get the message. He even tells people he doesn't feel any different since we got married, which makes me think at times, why did we bother.....sorry for the rant! I say sort it out now before you get wed as in my case, it's getting worse and although we now live together, we're leading quite separate lives...good luck hun xx

tinks1985  @emma89 i know exactly how you feel hun, my h2b spends so much time on his xbox that sometimes i feel like he'd rather marry that than me. However i do think it often depends on which game they're playing as some games require more concentration than others. I know that if he's playing some games i can talk to him and get an answer but others i'm not even allowed to talk to him or he'll get distracted. I think it's just boys and their toys to be honest hun. I'm the same when i go over to h2b's though cause he still lives with his parents and we're pretty much confined to his room as well, so it's a struggle but i'm sure it's not a reflection on how he feels about you.

ina_vi  @emma89
Oh, that was one of the biggest problems we had - games. Especially online games. At first I was trying to be understanding, and to be honest - that was just the way I was, keeping quiet and not getting in the way. Alex had only one passion, and I thought it would be unfair to ask him to stop. I don't know if anyone made it for so long, but I kept my mouth shut for more than a year. I loved him more than life, had low self-esteem, and was scared sh***s of losing him. But than I hit rock bottom, and the fights started. It took us quite a while till I made him see what the problem is and we manage to agree on a compromise. But looking at the situation now, I never should have kept it quiet. We lost so much time... Should've talked with him, fights or no fights, till he gets it. This was my biggest mistake, and I've never done it again. Talking is the right way! Now we're hitting our 10th anniversary, and I have to say, he puts me before the games. So yeah, there is a way out of the situation. Even if he starts playing again too much, talk (again) - you have the right to be loved just the way you love him xxx