Mood Swings

mrslopez2b  @nextmrstaylor I know it's a typical 'male' thing to say but perhaps your H2B is right and you are suffering from PMS. I have a friend who has extreme PMS which seems to have come from her mother. It can be so bad at some stage that it rules her life. She's had panic attacks and burst into tears on the train before for no real reason, yet can't stop herself even though she knows there's no real reason behind it.
She was put on some anti-depressants for a little while but they soon didn't help as much as they first did and now her doctor has put her on a new contraceptive pill it seems to have worked wonders.

I've never suffered with it myself so always thought it was just something men said to wind their other halfs up but since hearing my friends story it sounds truly awful... maybe a trip to the doctors would be worthwhile? xx

nextmrstaylor  @mrslopez2b the thing is though as irregular as my periods are I have never suffered from pms/pmt before, I dont really have any bad pains either, apart from maybe the first day or two, they always last about 6/7 days and don't tend vary too much whilst i'm on - don't want to really boast but the only major problem I've had with my periods is the irregulatory of them. I've never been a fan of taking the pill, thats what the doctor always use to say to me when I was younger to regulate me, but I had heard stories about the effects and it put me off them, plus at the moment we're trying for a baby so going on the pill wouldn't be ideal. I might see how things go for a few weeks then maybe go the docs. Luckily I don't seem to get affected by my moods in work too much.
I just wished they didn't happen so often, I feel awful on hubby to be when I'm in in one.
Thanks for your advice xx

quoth_the_raven  @nextmrstaylor What's your diet like? I was told today by my mental health liaison lady that I need to eat bananas around my periods to help with my PMT - you can't do much about the hormone swings, but you can help your sugar levels, and bananas are ideal for slow-release sugar. Apparently it's quite effective.

Otherwise, it sounds to me like it's either a hormone imbalance or you're falling into a vicious circle in terms of cognitive behaviour (or, to put it another way, your mind has gotten into the habit of swinging wildly from one pole to the other and you need to break it. Break the habit, that is. Don't break your mind, that would be counter-productive.) I really, really suggest going to see your GP? I've been having a very similar problem for a little while now - my life got turned upside down this year, I shan't bore you with details - so I went to the doctor and whinged at him to sort me out. It really is worth it, especially if you're starting to get quite low about the fact that you're feeling low. Don't let it escalate into Depression. And if it is hormonal, which it really could be, then they might be able to help with that.

Any chance you're pregnant yet, by the by?

nextmrstaylor  @quoth_the_raven i don't have the best diet in the world, hubby is slowly trying to change it (i'm really awkard with what I like and dont like food wise and quite reluctant to try new things), I do like bananas and tend to eat them quite often (though not more than 1 a day as they can make things go, sorry for too much information).
Nothing has really changed in my life in the past year apart from me moving in with hubby to be, nothing major has happend in my family apart from 3 of my cousins all having babies within a few months of each other.
There is a possibly I could be pregnant already as I've not had a period for a little over two months, but not really had any other symptons so kinda think i'm not, i've got a bit of a tummy that depending on what I wear can make me look pregnant, but I've always had a tummy, I also keep thinking that my boobs have changed a bit/grown maybe? but I dont know as I've not been to get measure in god knows how long, going to do it next week when I get paid so I can get some new bras. I'm gonna talk to hubby to be when he comes home from work in the morning and mention about doing a test (got 2 spare as many months ago Boots had an offer on first response of buy one get one free so I got two double packs) to see if it is that. If not I'll talk to him about going the docs to see if we can determine whats going on.
Thank you for your advice xx

katiedarlin  Could it be the stress of trying for a baby and planning a wedding?

boycee  @nextmrstaylor I think from time to time depending on what we've been through, stress (wedding/baby...) we are all prone to mood swings. I know I've had my fair share at times when there's just been a lot to do and deal with. I also believe it's good to recognise these things, as this is 1st sign to getting a hold of the situation. Now it's about exploring/trying options to see which one helps. First things first, take the test Second, I agree with quoth_the_raven, diet can also play a big part, that and keeping yourself physically stimulated to take away from constantly thinking about the mental things. When you feel yourself going into these swings, take a deep breath and try to focus on all that is good - write them down if it helps, to try and turn the situation around. Remember, you haven't yet booked the exact date or venue, BUT you have got an amazing and supportive husband to be, who you will marry and all that excitement is still to come! One thing at a time. And if things really aren't improving there is no shame/harm in visiting the doctors, to help you get on those first few steps forward. You have all the support from us here xx

nextmrstaylor  @katiedarlin I don't really think it is the stress of trying for a baby as I'm never regular therefore I don't tend to get upset every month or whatever month my period decides to show. We've only been officially trying for just over a year and I think at the moment we're not putting too much pressure on it and juts trying and seeing what happens, I'm not due back at the hospital until January (they didn't have any earlier appointments when I rang up a few weeks ago). I know it can be stressful planning the wedding but we've not really yet started planning it properly, we've not booked anything yet, not had to do invites, send them out, organise hotels/ transport for guests etc, not had to look at the finer details yet which I think probably will be one the most stressful things about planning a wedding.

@boycee I was going to take the test this morning after hubby to be came home but just after he got in for some unknown reason I began crying again, I was telling him about this topic I'd started last night and that for some unknown reason I also started crying when I was reading what quoth_the_raven had put, I replied to her then just turned everything off and went to bed but as I was texting him to say night I was crying again, all I wanted was a big hug off h2b, I decided that I had been crying enough already this morning and if its not the result that I want then I didn't want to be set off crying again. I feel sorry for him as he doesen't know whats going on with me and neither do I, he was on about ringing the doctors before to try and get an appointment as yet again when we were sat on the couch I started crying again, I decided to see how I go over the weekend and make an appointment on monday as from tonight I start 4 night shifts on the run, I didn't want to let them down as I know in work at the mo there is a few staff off sick and its harder for them to get a night covered. Still didnt manage to shift out of the mood once he had gone to bed I was just lay on the couch and flicking on here and facebook, ended up having about a 20/30min nap before which is not usually me to have a nap in the daytime (will have to go for another one soon with working tonight). It's took me a while to reply to what you written as everytime I started looking at it, I don't know why but I could feel meself welling up. I really am going to have to get this sorted, i know. As I said I'm going to see how I go over the weekend and make an appointment at the docs on monday, I'll be off work for two days then so will have time. I know I do have a VERY supportive hubby to be, he too said before there is no shame in wanting to go the docs to get things checked out. And thank you about the support from here, it's a great site as I know I couldn't talk about whats happening to me at the mo on facebook. Thank you all for the advice you have given me xx

boycee  @nextmrstaylor you know sometimes you don't even realise when things are getting to you, 'cos you are so used to just getting on with things. Try not to focus on it for now (easier said than done I know) and I think it's a great idea to see how you are feeling by Monday. Work will make the time fly by, but also spend your free time after work taking your mind off things - trying some new exercise class, going for walk. Hope you will feel better soon x

nextmrstaylor  @boycee thank you, was saying to hubby to be this morning that I seem to be ok when i'm in work and he said thats because your busy you've got something to occupy your mind. I'm trying not to focus on it for now. I'll prob be spending most of my free time sleeping, lol, I seem to be needing more of it than usual lately. I might look into the exercise thing, I think I spotted somewhere in town yesterday that does zumba classes so might look into that, also my get hubby to be along for a walk too, and thanks I hope I feel better soon xx

nextmrstaylor  @mrslopez2b
@boycee
@katiedarlin
Update : My moods calmed down, they were still a bit wobbly on thurs and fri,and sat morning when we both got home from work, hubby to be told me that he was going to bed straight away as he was walking a bar shift before doing the night shift. I dont mind him working the extra as it is more money for us but he had been asked the night before and he hadn't told/asked me to see if I minded which annoyed me more, so when he went to sleep I had a little cry myself. Since then I have been fine, been in a really good mood. I didnt do a pregnancy test as I was putting it off as I knew that if it didnt say what I wanted it too I would start crying again, so was going to do it on the monday morning before going to the doctors as I was planning on going to see them yesterday about my mood swings. I didn't need to as on sunday in work I came on (luckily I always for a few necessities in my bag with me).
So I think the mood swings were definatly linked to my hormones, only thing is though I have never had them like that before and as far as I can tell/remember have never really been down/feeling sad/ crying over the slightest thing in the days leading upto my period. I have never been regular but I can usually tell a few days before hand when im going to be on. I wonder if its an age thing and these things change as us girls get older, i'm 32 in six weeks.