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The wedding was on 28 October 2011 Handforth, Cheshire, Cheshire
shellyriannon
Just wondering.... has anyone had major fall-outs with their h2b and thinking... omg... am I doing the right thing??
Not that I am... I love my h2b to bits, but I'm heart heavy after a fall out. Stupid thing is... he doesn't seem the least bit bothered. In fact, he doesn't know why I'm so low! We fell out over shopping - our joint account card was refused when I was at the supermarket & when he checked it, he said I've already spent £100 this week on shopping. Thing is, both times I was just shopping for food - no wine, nothing for me just food. And its to last til next week. So I felt like I had to hide the food so I didn't have to justify it, and I paid for it myself. but he still made me feel bad.
I went out tonight and bought my OWN wine, with my money.... he's drinking it!! Cheeky sod. I'm not going food shopping for a while. He can get it his flippin self!!!
Just wondered if its normal to feel a little worried....... Sure its not going to be a problem but... has this happened to you?
19 Aug 2011 at 20:35
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kookiebek@shellyriannon Sort of in the last 2/3 weeks before the wedding we were REALLY niggly with each other, think we were both working really hard, working on the wedding and not really spending mch time with each other. It is really hard when you are so busy and stressed yourself to think about how the other is feeling so I don't think this helped either.
It is definitely normal to think 'Do I really want this?' about a marriage when you have an argument, but if you are anything like me when you calm down you think 'Well yeah actually I do' it was just a silly argument.
In your photoblog you talk about how first time round you know that you made a mistake and it wasn't 'right' from the start but that this time it is the real thing...I am sure it is just one of those arguments that is blown out of proportion and you are reading more into it then him. It will prob feel a lot better tomorrow....Having said that you could make him stew for a bitt before forgiving him and then demand HE buys YOU a bottle of wine with HIS money!!!xx
Member of finalstitch.co.uk since 8 June 2010
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Marple, Cheshire.
The wedding was on 28 October 2011 Handforth, Cheshire, Cheshire
shellyriannon
Ha - completely agree!! It got to me a bit too much I think - I don't think he even realised I was upset with him. Things are ok now, but he is directing a play at the moment in his spare time which makes him stressed because theres a lot to think about. And he's still dealing with his ex-wife as she is selling the house they lived in together and he is entitled to a share but she is trying to do him out of the money. Add to that the fact that he hates his job and his future wife is mythering him about wedding stuff and I guess things are bound to get a little strained. I'm feeling a little bit like I'm coming last in his life at the moment, and that I'm just his sounding board but I guess thats what the hard side of being a wife is like...! I haven't really talked to him about this properly because its hard to voice things - he will probably say I'm being over-sensitive because I do have a tendancy to be a bit like that!
Anyway - like you said, things will blow over - once he's got his head round this play and got rid of his ex properly things should calm down a bit!
Anyway - thanks for the advice @kookiebek , I appreciate it! I just wanted to be sure that I'm not going mad....!! xxxxx
22 Aug 2011 at 21:46
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kookiebek
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kookiebek@shellyriannon Maybe its worth showing exactly what you have written here, it doesn't blame him and shows that you understand how he is feeling but still shows that you feel left out. However if it is a little better now maybe sit on it unless it gets bad again x
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The wedding was on 28 October 2011 Handforth, Cheshire, Cheshire
shellyriannon
Yeah... I'll leave it for now... just had a quick look at your wedding pics btw they are fab, you looked stunning and what an amazing honeymoon destination!! I love the fact that it was a secret to you until your wedding day Were off to Florida to all the theme parks! I can't wait... we are such big kids! I've never been to America before so I'm very excited. I would have quite liked a nice relaxing beautiful holiday like yours too, but Florida was something we both fancied... I told him I'll have the posh beach holiday for my 40th... he's got 9 years to save up!! lol xx
22 Aug 2011 at 21:53
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kookiebek
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kookiebek@shellyriannon Lol good plan!! I would loved to have done Florida but as Hubby is scared of heights it didn't seem worth it!! Ive told him I want to renew our vows in 10/15years and go to a different Carribean island to do it!! Thank you for your kind comments, I just want to do it all again.
So not long to yours now, very exciting!!x
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