Wedding invites for cousins to evening only

gerigab  at the end of the day if you could afford it everyone would be there all day...your paying and if they loved you they would understand...i'm stick to evening as it may cause more hassel if all your cousins talk and find out only one is invited all day...i have a small family and H2B's is quite big...we're both close to our families but can't afford to have everyone there all day so cousins are being invited to evening regardless...stay strong mrs...keep you happy not others

emjleo85  @give_me_strength Im the same all my cousins are only going to be invited to the evening and i know its going to kick off but i really dont care if they dont like it then dont come at all....its me and h2b who are paying for our wedding so we shall decide our guest list.
Personally i wouldnt be offended if i recieved that message. If shes married then she will understand what it is like with budgets etc. Try not to worry too much about the comments on facebook i dont get why shes being nasty if youve never met personally this person wouldnt even be invited to my wedding xx

sophie2bgillies  I said this about some of my guests but my mum and dad seemed to think it was rude to upgrade them so maybe if yours are saying the same there's something to it...? As gerigab says, if the other cousin who's being a bitch finds out about the other cousin being invited all day things may kick off. She can still make a weekend of it but rather than spend the day at your wedding could be doing something else. I think there's maybe something about maybe being thought of as an afterthought? I would stick with what you have got at the moment so as not to cause any hassle, but keep an eye on the other cousin as I would be wanting to uninvite if anything nasty was posted. Honestly everyone has an opinion. Don't be upset hun, it's just not worth it! xx

jen150912  @give_me_strength Invite who you like! You and h2b are paying, not them! Ignore the nastiness and bitchiness - if you don't see your cousins that often then why would they expect to be invited to the whole day? I'll rephrase that - they obviously think that as family they SHOULD be invited to the whole day - but surely you invite the people you want, and not the people you should, just because you happen to be related to them? If you invite your cousins to the day, it means that other people that you want to be there might get bumped off - so stick to your guns and keep them as evening only. Like the other girls say, if they want to make a weekend of it, they can occupy themselves sightseeing during the day, and attend your reception at night. Sod them. I'm quite luck y in this respect - I have 8 cousins, only 1 is married, and h2b only has 1 plus his mum (and their plus ones!) and there are no kids between any of them, so we don't have this hassle of being 'wedding-politically correct'. Chin up hun, and don't back down xxx

mrslopez2b  @give_me_strength Hey hun, If your cousin is close enough to you that she is one of those you would like to invite to the wedding then I think she would be over the moon to get an invite... after all there would be tons of other people you could choose.
My best friend got married last April and we have known each other since we were 4 so are like family and she married in a registry office so I told her to not worry about inviting us as we would just come to the evening as family come first. I arranged her hen do and me and my H2B did the venue decor and the co-ordinating of the day which none of her family got involved in (they just turned up), 3 days before the wedding she said that 2 of her family members had dropped out from the ceremony and she would love for me and H2B to go. We were honoured she chose us above other friends and I really wanted to see my best friend get married and be apart of our day so I didn't feel like an after thought at all as I know how expensive weddings can be and I was just happy for her that she was so happy and had met her perfect day. At the end of the day, it was all about her so it doesn't matter what I or anyone else thought and it's the same with your day.
If you would like to invite your cousin then do it, stuff everyone else. If they b'tch it just backs up that you wouldn't want them a part of the wedding xxx

joski28  @give_me_strength I'm in exacty the same boat, all of H2B's cousins are coming to the whole day but because I have such a big family I can only invite so many to the daytime and the rest to the evening. I'm inviting a cousin and her kids to the day because i speak to her all the time but her two sisters are only invited to the evening. Luckily they are fine with this as they know how expensive it is to have a big wedding. I do worry about upsetting people but at the end of the day it is your wedding. I would be over the moon if I was invited to the evening and them bumped up to daytime and if she's that upset about it then she will probably feel the same. I think the way you've worded your message is fine. Whats the worst that could happen? xxx

gina130284  @give_me_strength
I wouldnt be offended given that the wedding is in May, and therefore they have 3-4 months notice. I once received an invite via email to a wedding 3 days before. It was a girl I went to school with and hadnt seen for ages. I wasnt offended that she hadn't invited me to the wedding, but when I got the email I was fuming! Id rather not been invited at all.

Although I dont think sending the text is rude it is a bit vague to say 'we might have space available' rather than 'we have space available for you all'. Id wait until you defrinitely have the space available before filing it. She might take this as a full day invitation and you might have to back track if there isnt room for them! xxx